Natural Hair Confessions #2

At least every other week [whether in person or via social media] someone says (something to me to the nature of) “Wow, you cut your hair”. To me they’re implying (something to the nature of) “You shouldn’t have cut your hair, or I prefer it the way it was”.

It’s so crazy because about 9 years ago I can remember the same type of comments and personal perception from myself. I don’t regret my decision, but the feeling of “complete happiness and wholeness” with my hair, in this’ stage, is indeed missing!

My locs were had progressed beyond the infant stage, “the ugly stage”. Yet here I am starting over. I must admit I absolutely hate this period of my hair journey! The big chop is over, but now my hair is at a stage where I can’t really do anything to it because it’s no longer super short and not long enough to style!

I see a lot of naturals in this stage go for the tapped look, which is cute. But I know I won’t keep it up. I also know color my add some jazz to it, but I’m afraid it could stunt my growth and I know it will change my natural texture.

Then, on top of all that I’m still experimenting on the perfect products; so my hair is kind of lost. And, I’m constantly in curiosity because I don’t know at what rate it will grow, nor its healthiness, or outcome.

Natural Hair Confession #1

I have to admit, 29 days into my natural hair journey and I’m having thoughts of concern, but not so much regret. It seems like everywhere I turn I see people with beautiful locs and it reminds me of mine! I feel like I’m being taunted! I start thinking about my baby shower coming up and whether I should get some “weave” so that I look cute? But then I bounce back and realize that I cannot get my locs back and furthermore my level of cuteness should not be determined by my hair, especially hair that’s not mine.

 I believe we gave hair so much credit as to our level beauty and comfort. And this is something I wanted to change. I want to love my hair and myself in it’s natural state. And, I must admit I knew this was not going to be an easy task.

A vlogger on YouTube said (something like this) best, ” It you care what other people think, if you need other people to gratify your decisions, if you need constant praise, if you are sensitive to what others have to say or question, then natural hair is not for you”! I so agree, because to cut your hair and wear it in its natural state takes “confidence and boldness”. You can be make bad or compromising choices in any other category in your life, and no one says a thing. But when you decide to go natural (or change your hair in general) folks will come out of the woodwork with comments and their opinions. Trust me, I don’t have this “big chop” thing all under control, but I’m determined to fight the struggle, because I know the results will be worth it.